15 Reasons to Avoid Being Angry & Argumentative

Don't Dispute & Don't Get Angry

1. “And when the foolish address them (with bad words) they reply back with ‘Salamaa’ (peaceful words of gentleness).” (Al-Furqan, 25:63)

2. “If they pass by some vain speech or play, they pass by it with dignity.” (Al-Furqan, 25:72) 

3. “And be moderate in your pace and lower your voice; indeed, the most disagreeable of sounds is the voice of donkeys… But of the people is he who disputes about Allah without knowledge or guidance or an enlightening Book.” (Luqman, 31:19-20)

4. “There are no people who went astray after having been guided except for indulging in disputation.” (Al-Tirmidhi)

5. The Messenger of Allah (Peace Be Upon Him) repeated three times,

“Those who search deeply for confusing questions have perished.” (Muslim)

6. “Do not dispute with your brother, ridicule him, nor promise him and then break your promise.” (Al-Tirmidhi)

7. `Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) narrated that the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said,

“The most hated person with Allah is the most quarrelsome person.” (Al-Bukhari)

8. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:

“The one initiating abuse incurs the sin of abusing as long as the other did not return it.” (Muslim)

9. “The believer does not defame, abuse, disparage, nor vilify.” (Hadith in Al-Tirmidhi, sahih)

10. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said, “He who is victorious over his passion at the time of anger is the strongest among you. He who forgives having the power to release (his anger and take revenge) is the most patient among you.” (Al-Baihaqi in Shu’ab Al-Imaan)

11. Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated, “The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said, ‘The strong person is not he who has physical strength but the person is strong if he can control his anger.” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

12. Ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated, the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said, “And when you get angry, keep silent.” (Ahmad, Ibn Abi Dunya, Al-Tabarani, and Al-Bayhaqi)

13. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said,

“Anger is a burning coal. It burns in the heart.” (Al-Tirmidhi and Al-Bayhaqi)

14. “Nobody swallows a more bitter pill than that of anger—seeking the satisfaction of Allah.” (Hadith in Ibn Majah)

15. A nomad said to the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) “Advise me.” And he peace be upon him said,

“If a man defamed you with what he knows about you, do not defame him with what you know about him. For the sin is against him.”

The nomad said, “I never abused any person after that.”